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4th Aug 2021

Why working on your confidence and self esteem doesn't always work

A lack of self esteem and confidence holds many people back from achieving their full potential. It keeps people from going for their dreams. And yet, sometimes people confuse the result ("confidence") with the process ("how to be more confident").  In fact, people often spend a lot of energy on their inner work that can actually delay action forward. It's like the energy of getting ready to finally live life.

Similarly, sometimes well-meaning parents who are trying to instill self esteem and confidence in their children end up creating the opposite result of what they wanted. We have a generation of young people who psychologists have noted are more anxious and lacking in confidence than ever before, in spite of well-intentioned loving "helicopter parents".

Drawing on my experience working with hundreds of people to help them create success, this clip offers a perspective that may be useful. Basically, the "what" is different than the "how".

"You don't need confidence. You need courage."

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About the Podcast

All Things Human with Adele Wang
How power works, in people and in machines.
How power works, in people and in machines. Especially in this time of massive and hyper-rapid change.

Adele Wang watches how people behave, in organizations and in ordinary life, and says the part most people leave out.

Some episodes are about work. Who decides, who gets blamed, what happens when nobody quite owns a decision. Some are about relationships. Why you know your neighbor's dog's name and not theirs. What we want from each other and what we're willing to admit we want.

The through line is the same either way. What's really going on underneath the thing everyone agrees to say.

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