Why Good People Become Bad Bosses: The "Power vs Empowerment" Trap
What is the one word that makes corporate leaders more squeamish than "taxes" or "sex"?
Power.
In the coaching and development world, people are allergic to the word. It sounds dirty. It sounds like corruption. So, the word got rebranded to "Empowerment" because that feels safe. It feels internal. It feels like yoga.
But in this episode, I argue that this semantic shift is actually dangerous. By confusing the feeling of empowerment with the physics of power, we are accidentally training a generation of leaders to be abrasive, isolated, and blind to their own impact.
We cover:
- The Semantic Trap: Why we love "Empowerment" but hate "Power"—and why the distinction matters.
- The "Jerks" Paradox: How standard coaching advice ("Don't care what people think") can turn a well-meaning leader into a toxic boss.
- The Two Types of Power: The critical difference between Internal Agency (Self-Empowerment) and External Physics (Power Over resources and people).
- The AI Factor: Why Artificial Intelligence is about to make this power dynamic even more volatile.
If you’ve ever wondered why so many "empowered" leaders seem to lack basic empathy, this episode unpacks the mechanism behind the behavior.
Note: My use of the term “brain damage” in the epsidoe was as a metaphor, not a literal sense of physical brain damage.
Key Quote: "We have a generation of leaders who think they are 'empowered,' but they are actually just abrasive because they don't understand the tool they are holding." #PowerDynamics #LeadershipPsychology #CorporateCulture #ExecutiveCoaching #AbrasiveLeadership #ThePowerTrap #NeuroscienceOfLeadership #EmpowermentTrap #FutureOfWork #AILeadership
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