The key for awesome relationships: the dance of Independence and Codependence for Interdependence - with Adele Wang

By far the number one challenge my clients face in relationships is this dance between the fear of being too independent and too dependent on others. Whether someone is hyper- independent and feeling lonely or codependent and needing constant support from other people, these issues are actually opposite sides of the same coin, the dance between independence and codependence.  It also results in either:

• Feeling exhausted and "strong" for everyone else but lonely inside
• Difficulty in letting people "in" and keeping a wall up
• Worry that they'll burden other people by sharing what bothers them
• Feeling resentful from always giving to others but not having people around who reciprocate back
  
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• Needing validation from other people to feel strong 
• Fear of being alone
• Fear of being "too much" for other people to handle, feeling like they have to tone themselves down somehow

Often people talk about the need for "balance". But what they tend to mean is a certain meeting in the middle of not-too-independent and not-too-codependent as being the solution.

But in my experience, an approach that invites people to be fully independent AND codependent helps people step into who they truly are, with no holds barred.  It often surprises people how resistant they are to an energy of what they don't want to be but already are.  The best intimacy comes from the freedom of being able to express both ends of the spectrum, and everything in between.

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